Tuesday, May 28, 2019

Slice of Life: Tense topics for a birthday breakfast

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Garth, Cecily, and I were waiting for our breakfast to arrive. It was Cecily's seventeenth birthday, and that girl LOVES to go to breakfast. Her favorite place is always crowded, so we had some time for talking, and I brought up the summer. 

"How are you envisioning it?" I asked. "Are you wanting to be here or home for the better part of the summer?"

We have a house in Rhode Island that's close to the beach. With the girls driving and working, they've had some pretty great options about where to spend their time. 

She wasn't sure. Didn't really care one way or the other. Just wanted to make money and hang with friends. Could pick up more hours where she's currently working. 

"If you want to be here (in Rhode Island), then you should probably work on that now," I said. 

My tone probably warranted an eye roll, and I got more than that. Where was breakfast when we needed it? 

I recklessly moved on to college visits, recommendations, and the possibility of getting some of that done over the summer. Bad move. I wish I could remember the exact response for the sake of this post, but it was along the lines of Chill out, Mom. It's my birthday, from Cecily, and Lay off, Mel. Just have a relaxing breakfast, from Garth. 

"I won't say another word about it," I said. (We all knew that's not true, but I could leave the planning-for-the-future topic alone for the rest of breakfast.) "You two can direct the conversation."

For a while, the conversation was tense, but breakfast came, and so did other conversation topics. Maybe some day I'll write a book about the fine lines between supporting, directing, nagging, and driving people insane, although I'm sure many have already been written, probably some by mothers with high school juniors. 

Happy Slicing,


  1. I remember those tense moments too! Thanks for sharing.

  2. A very fine line, indeed! You have opened the door . . . Maybe it wasn't the best "day" but it was an opening!

    Good luck!

  3. Do you want to come to breakfast at my house next week? I have a junior you could work on! AND it is a fine line until they need you ... hang in there - you're a pro at this point.

  4. You had me at "a house in Rhode Island that's close to the beach!"

    Oh, junior year is a tough one! Yet, it sounds like you were able to at least introduce this subject!

  5. I’m chuckling at this post as I think I crossed the line with my daughter as I mentioned something about beginning the search for a preschool for my grandson! Oops!
    Once a mom always a mom

  6. I feel like I already have these tense moments with my almost seven year old. Thanks for the glimpse into the future. I read your part as caring and supportive mom all the way!

  7. Oh boy - shades of things to come. My 10-year-old and I had a similar eye-roll producing conversation tonight & it was only about homework. Love the line "I recklessly moved on to college visits, recommendations, and..." Made me snort. Good for you, reckless mom!