In March, Two Writing Teachers hosts the Slice of Life Story Challenge. Everyone is welcome to share writing and comment on others in this special community.
On Saturday morning, I arrived at the Lansing Convention Center, excited and ready to present at the Michigan Reading Association Conference. Way back when, when I'd agreed to head to Lansing, March 7 felt like a long way away. Time is like that.
I'd promised myself that I'd remember to take pictures. I didn't do a very good job, and this is the only one I took. When I thought about it more, I realized that I have always presented with other people. We take pictures of the group of us together. It was strange to present by myself.
Throughout the presentation, I worried about the time. An hour goes by fast when you're trying to fit everything in, and you know there's too much for the number of minutes. Again time is like that. It takes forever when you're waiting for something special to happen, and it flies by when there aren't enough minutes. How is that one minute is the same amount of time regardless of what is happening?
Since I knew that my new book would not be available to purchase at the conference, I brought a copy with me. After I finished the session, a few people stayed to ask questions and talk about practices. One woman pulled up a picture of her 3 year-old daughter.
"What do I say to her teacher?" the one whose name I wish I knew asked.
"What do I say to her teacher?" the one whose name I wish I knew asked.
The teacher had sent a picture of several children hard at work tracing sight words.
This woman's daughter held a pen in a fist grip. "She has no idea what she's writing," the woman said. "I wish there was more fun happening."
We talked about how hard it can be to be an educator and send your children to school. Of course, there are things you'd do differently or that you wished weren't happening, and yes, tracing words before a grip is mastered could be one of those wish-they-weren't-doings.
"Your daughter will be fine," I said. "She has you."
But we both expressed some worries for some of the children who don't have a knowledgeable parent.
"What can I say to her?" she asked. "Without coming across as the parent who knows everything."
I'd brought one copy of our book, and on an impulse, I handed it to her.
"Take this," I said. "Tell her you were at a conference, and the presenter gave you a book, and you're sharing it. All true. Maybe she'll find ideas that will benefit your daughter and also other children in the class."
"You're giving this to me?" she asked.
"I am," I said.
She gave me a hug and headed off to lunch. Maybe someday I'll know her name.


Congratulations on your new book, Melanie! It's so exciting to have a new book, and even more exciting to be able to share it with others. I know this parent appreciates the copy you gave her.
ReplyDeleteMelanie, congratulations on your book and its pending release. You described so many of your concerns (time, preparedness) and then led us to your biggest area of concern and the reason for your book - your audience. Your kindness will be long remembered and I bet you will sell a lot of books through the story about the kindly presenter who gave away her "last" book!
ReplyDeleteYou are such a gift to so many of us, Melanie! I love that you write about the challenge it is for parents, whether educators or no, of learning about best practices and then not knowing how to approach their child's teacher. I always tell our families that we give them workshops not to explain what we do, but to provide them with relevant information we believe they deserve to know.
ReplyDeleteI'm sure that woman will be forever grateful to you. And I can't wait for read your book!
Diane (newtreemom)
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on your new book and the opportunity to present. I loved the thought that kept coming through, “Time is like that.” And I really love the story of the shared moment that prompted your generous book gift… I can imagine the ideas from the book spreading like ripples in a pond to help teachers and students.
First, congratulations on presenting about your book. That’s incredible. Second, I love the interaction you shared with that Mom. You’re amazing.
ReplyDeleteMelanie,
ReplyDeleteThis is such a generous act of kindness. I hope the recipient devours the book and marks relevant passages. I also learned a lot reading this and wish I could remember how I learned to write.
Congratulations! That must have been exciting...not only presenting, but sending your book out into the world to a much-needed destination.
ReplyDeleteYikes! Posted as Anonymous again. So sorry.
DeleteI love that you gave her the book. I was talking to our ot about your book and how excited I was to read it and be able to point to the research I know it holds. My copy arrived this weekend and I already know it’s a treasure. If only we could gift it to all the teachers out there…I hope many will buy copies. ❤️Jess
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