It's March! That means that I am participating in the Slice of Life Story Challenge. I am happy to co-host this event with the team at Two Writing Teachers. Everyone is welcome!
Sunday, March 28, 2021
Slice of Life- 28 of 31: Wondering about messages when there's no response
Yesterday, Larkin wrote about finding the cards that she mailed. The cards were in a ditch, so they clearly didn't arrive in the intended recipients' hands. While this discovery might have cost her something financially, it has me thinking about the emotional peace of knowing or learning that a message didn't go through as opposed to the emotional turmoil of wondering whether it's been received but ignored, forgotten, or disregarded.
Scrolling through texts, I have a few of those. There are categories of them, though, for sure. There are the ones where you don't really care, the ones that don't really matter... but there are also the ones that cause worry. I sent a text to someone I've never met about a writing project-- hers not mine, so it really matters to her and not me. No response. Another text went to a friend I hadn't seen in a long time thanking her for meeting and saying how good it was to see her. No response. That text could have gotten buried, but maybe she didn't like seeing me?!?! I doubt that, but my insecurities surface regularly. And another text to a close friend whose daughter's been having a really hard time. That's a no response that I'll follow up on because while it could be that it's a message that slipped through, it could also be that it's a message that needs too much of an emotional response and would be better with a phone call.
Whether it's mail, phone messages, texts, there's always that wonder of "did they get it?" when there's no response. I'm a person who definitely prefers to find out that my message landed in a ditch, rather than wonder about the reason for no response.